Exercising Self- Control

"Nothing in Excess, To Behave ethically, we need to slow down, notice others, feel empathy, and evaluate our options.  Both prudent and ethical actions depend on time"- (Forni, p. 64).

"It remains self-evident that no society could survive if its members did not choose- frequently and predictably- restrain over impulse. It is also self-evident that refraining from intemperate action is a primary factor in the quest of a happy life. "- (Forni. p. 67). 

"And since our actions have consequences for other people- intended and unintended- we must accept that there are limits to our freedom to act." - (Forni. p. 67).

As Forni states in this chapter exercising self-control is an important part of being an ethical person and doing good for others. Beyond that it also helps you to live a happy life in that if you are able to exercise self-control you will make better decisions, thus have happier relationships, be more successful in school and work, etc. Having the ability to control your actions and to take the time to think before acting is essential to leading a good life.  

This is a skill that can be taught and practiced and is an important for teachers and parents to teach this skill.  Allow for some time with your children or students to discuss what self-control means. Give others and yourself time to practice patience. Patience is a form of self-control.  As Forni states, "You are patient when you stop resenting reality for not conforming to your desires, which is to say when your mind is set to accept what you can't change."  This allows you to accept and embrace the present moment and live more mindfully in the world. This is where true happiness lies.